Successful leaders choose their words carefully. Words matter because ideas matter. If you are not careful, You could become trapped in a web of your own making.
Words are powerful and have the ability to build up or to tear down. Words do cause pain, anger, frustration, low self-esteem, emptiness, and emotional withdrawal. Or they can bring enthusiasm, creativity, success, closeness, and joy. These are just a few of the things words can do. That is why it’s so important to choose your words carefully.
Words can trap you
The problem with words is that many times you speak in the heat of the moment and don’t take the time to choose well what you say or how you say it. Words can be a problem when they are:
- Deceptive. If you tell lies, even “small” ones, you will lose credibility. Once lost, it’s really hard to recover.
- Angry. Angry words stir up trouble. They can also make you look stupid. Better to wait until you are calm before speaking.
- Inaccurate. When you lack clarity, you bring misunderstanding.
- Cutting. Harsh criticism, sarcasm, condescending words can cut to the quick and ruin people and reputations.
Once you speak, no matter how much you apologize, people remember. We have all seen it in the news, in the boardroom, and in organizations. You often hear things like:
"I didn't deliver the message I intended."
"It was an unfortunate choice of words."
"I just wasn't very sensitive in my word choice."
"I was misquoted."
Remember. . .
It’s much better to think first and choose your words carefully. Don’t get trapped in a web of your own making! Use the right words, at the right moment, and with the right attitude.
Do you ever get trapped by your own words? How much time and effort you spend un-saying your ill chosen words? Do you know what right words are, at the right moment, delivered with the right attitude? I can help you learn to communicate more effectively. To find out how, Contact me today
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